Dating / Friendship / The Problem Guests

The Problem Guests: Why Is It So Hard to Make Other Gay Friends?

Written by Mitchell Jordan. Before our first — and final — date, the French man whom I’d been chatting to for the past 48 hours offered some comforting words to help calm my nerves. “At the very least,” he assured, “we can still be friends.” Possibly he meant well, but this flimsy promise made me … Continue reading

Dating / Racism / The Problem Guests

The Problem Guests: Racism in the Gay Community

Written by Robert in response to a former #SpillSesh interview on Dating As a Gay Black Man.

I am a 58 year old African American who came out at 18. I have 40 years of experience being out in Los Angeles, the Bay Area and in NYC. I experienced far less discrimination in the gay community in the 80’s and 90’s than I do now. I have tried to put my finger on why that is. Continue reading