Apps / The Problem Guests

The Problem Guests: Grindr and Consent

Written by William @willmlemos

I have had a tumultuous relationship with the social media app in the 8 years that I have been an openly gay man. Continue reading

Gay Media / Racism / The Problem Guests

The Problem Guests: False Inclusivity

Written by Michael (@mycooljaymes) in response to a former #SpillSesh interview on Dating As a Gay Black Man.

My story doesn’t really come from one that deals with body issues, mine deals with the color of my skin. I’ve seen so many ads feature for white men, white men have always been the face of everything. Continue reading

Dating / Racism / The Problem Guests

The Problem Guests: Racism in the Gay Community

Written by Robert in response to a former #SpillSesh interview on Dating As a Gay Black Man.

I am a 58 year old African American who came out at 18. I have 40 years of experience being out in Los Angeles, the Bay Area and in NYC. I experienced far less discrimination in the gay community in the 80’s and 90’s than I do now. I have tried to put my finger on why that is. Continue reading

Coming Out / Dating / Relationship Advice / The Problem Guests

The Problem Guests: Not Meeting the Parents

An anonymous blog submission

There wasn’t anything wrong with the romance that I had gotten myself into. Every customary thing: opening doors, creative date spots, flowers… you name it. I was relieved to be in the presence of somebody who not only got along with me very well, but made me feel secure. That I was his focal point, and there weren’t figures lingering in the periphery to break his gaze on me. Continue reading