Dating / Racism / The Problem Guests

The Problem Guests: Racism in the Gay Community

Written by Robert in response to a former #SpillSesh interview on Dating As a Gay Black Man.

I am a 58 year old African American who came out at 18. I have 40 years of experience being out in Los Angeles, the Bay Area and in NYC. I experienced far less discrimination in the gay community in the 80’s and 90’s than I do now. I have tried to put my finger on why that is. Continue reading

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Coming Out / Dating / Relationship Advice / The Problem Guests

The Problem Guests: Not Meeting the Parents

An anonymous blog submission

There wasn’t anything wrong with the romance that I had gotten myself into. Every customary thing: opening doors, creative date spots, flowers… you name it. I was relieved to be in the presence of somebody who not only got along with me very well, but made me feel secure. That I was his focal point, and there weren’t figures lingering in the periphery to break his gaze on me. Continue reading

Gay Media / Racism / Social Media / The Problem Guests

The Problem Guests: Icons, Objectification & LGBTQ Activism

Written by @drjeffgenderprof – Please check out more of his work on Medium

“Adam Rippon and Gus Kenworthy have the gay Internet abuzz,” reported Logo after the openly gay Olympians shared a kiss on stage at the GLAAD 2018 Media Awards, held in Los Angeles. Like many, I was impressed that Rippon and Kenworthy used the platform afforded to them by the 2018 Olympic Games in Pyeongchang, South Korea to raise awareness of the Trump administration’s systematic attacks on LGBTQ people. Rippon, in particular, put Mike Pence in the crosshairs by vocally critiquing the Vice President’s anti-LGBTQ record. But since the games, the pair have been increasingly objectified by the (gay) media. Their bodies receive all the attention while their messages take a backseat. Continue reading