I recently received a DM from a follower with a problem that will probably ring true for almost all of us. He wrote that he was struggling with the “gay beauty standard” – you know the one, muscular, fat ass, abs everywhere – and finds himself comparing his body to the guys he sees on apps…
Since the dawn of time, or at least since I’ve come out, I have had a very tumultuous relationship with “flaky gays…”
As I come closer to finishing part two of my book The Grid: Lessons from the Men of Grindr, I wanted to share another snippet (since it is hard for me to write about anything else at the moment!) Here is a section on Grindr’s destructive “stat culture” – I know most of you who have ever been on the app will connect with this. I hope all of you will check out my full breakdown (and suggestions for fixing) “stat culture” when the book comes out.
Sending nude photos and videos involving others may seem harmless, but might be illegal. I discuss some follower experiences from Grindr and clarify the laws.