Apps / Dating / Relationship Advice

#TheGrid2 Snippet: When to Meet the Guy from an App

Since I am knee-deep in finishing up part two of my book The Grid: Lessons from the Men of Grindr, I thought I’d share a snippet (since it is hard for me to write about anything else at the moment!) Here is a section on deciding when to meet someone in real life from an app. In this case, I met Michael (a guy you’ll discover in book 2) the same night we started talking on Grindr. Needless to say, it was an interesting night! Here are my thoughts on when to potentially meet that guy from an app… Continue reading

Dating / Racism / The Problem Guests

The Problem Guests: Racism in the Gay Community

Written by Robert in response to a former #SpillSesh interview on Dating As a Gay Black Man.

I am a 58 year old African American who came out at 18. I have 40 years of experience being out in Los Angeles, the Bay Area and in NYC. I experienced far less discrimination in the gay community in the 80’s and 90’s than I do now. I have tried to put my finger on why that is. Continue reading