Written by Robert in response to a former #SpillSesh interview on Dating As a Gay Black Man.
I am a 58 year old African American who came out at 18. I have 40 years of experience being out in Los Angeles, the Bay Area and in NYC. I experienced far less discrimination in the gay community in the 80’s and 90’s than I do now. I have tried to put my finger on why that is. Continue reading
A self-reflective look into why gay people are often competitive with one another in friendships and dating, including tips on how to fix it. Continue reading
How to deal with the super delayed responders of gay dating. Continue reading
An anonymous blog submission
There wasn’t anything wrong with the romance that I had gotten myself into. Every customary thing: opening doors, creative date spots, flowers… you name it. I was relieved to be in the presence of somebody who not only got along with me very well, but made me feel secure. That I was his focal point, and there weren’t figures lingering in the periphery to break his gaze on me. Continue reading